Three Ways to Start Living the Life of Your Dreams

Tomorrow is not promised to any one of us, no matter how much we try to trick ourselves into believing that it is. We carry that calendar, cell phone and laptop as a crutch to ensure that we’re so busy there has to be a tomorrow so we can finish up that project, send that email, schedule that meeting. But the reality is that for all of us, there will be one day that tomorrow will not come. There will be one day when we do not roll over in the bed to hit the snooze button on the alarm clock. There will be one day when we will not wake up to greet the golden sky.

I heard author and motivational speaker John St. Augustine give a speech once at a book festival in Charlottesville, Virginia. He said to think of your life as a timeline. The average person lives to age 77. He said to think about where you are now on the timeline between your current age and 77. The space between is the unknown.

The problem is that most people are afraid of the unknown. Most people are so afraid of the unknown that they live unhappy and mediocre lives until they aren’t living anymore. They have big dreams that they’re even afraid to speak out loud for fear they might have to make them come true. But deep down, we all want the kind of courage it takes to live what John St. Augustine calls “the uncommon life.” Deep inside of each of us, there’s a glimmer of wanting light that yearns to do something real.

John says that living the uncommon life is about deliberately doing different things so your life will be better and more fulfilling. The uncommon life is not for people who say they’re going to wait until they get all their ducks in a row before they do what they really want to do. It’s not for people who insist that they’ll follow their dream of starting a business or spending more time with their family, or taking that trip to Paris . . . but only once they’ve reached a certain age or point in their lives. The uncommon life is only for people who are determined to live the live of their dreams.

Because we all know that tomorrow is not promised. All we really have is today.

So where do you start?

Eliminate Imaginary Barriers

You know, the ones that come from that negative voice in your head (also known as that damn lizard brain). Always telling you that you can’t do something because you’re too this or not enough that. You can focus all day long on your perceived personal attributes and shortcomings, but this will only serve to keep you from your real goal of improving your life. Also, when you focus on all the reasons why you’re not qualified or capable to do something, it prevents you from the reality of making plans to deal with the real barriers to following your dreams, which can actually be overcome with a little elbow grease and determination.

Do One Thing

Do one thing today to move your dream forward, even if it’s as simple as writing it down and taping it up on your computer. Do one thing today to remind yourself that life is too short not to do what makes you happy. Make that phone call, send that email, ask that scary question, create a life map. No matter how busy you are, you can always do at least one thing a day to move yourself closer to living the life of your dreams.

Embrace Possibility

Once you do take action on changing your life, believe with all your heart that the very best outcome awaits you. Setting and achieving goals is much easier when you live in the magical world of possibility. Sometimes, when I’m about to take a big step in my own journey, I write down my vision for it on a piece of paper and then bless it with the following affirmation:

I am beautiful and worthy of every truly beautiful thing. Amen.

Whatever you do, think positive thoughts as you take each step on your journey to living the life of your dreams. Before you know it, it will be so much easier not only to take each subsequent step, but to be able to walk with confidence into the path that you envision for yourself.

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