Do You Need a Lifestyle Experiment?

So I started this blog in January 2010 to chronicle the ups and downs (but mostly ups!) of my life as one of my personal commitments to making some big changes in my life this year. So far, I’ve embarked on a number of lifestyle experiments, some big (like going natural and quitting my job) and some small, like cooking good food for myself a few times a week and drinking more water, etc. I wanted 2010 to be the year that I lived completely for me and did all the things that make me happy. I also wanted to get rid of the things that did not make me happy, which involved a massive Facebook unfriending and distancing myself from some toxic people in my life.

One thing that allowed me to follow through on these changes was that I called them experiments. Out loud and in my head. By calling my lifestyle changes “experiments,” that meant there was less perceived risk in it for me if I failed. That meant I could always go back to my “old life” if the experiment didn’t work out. It also meant that these changes didn’t have to be permanent if I didn’t want them to be. Everything seemed more flexible by calling them “lifestyle experiments” vs. OMG I have to change EVERYTHING in my life RIGHT NOW FOREVER or I’ll DIE.

See the difference?

Even though I did the “big chop” to cut off all my hair to go natural, I knew that if I didn’t like it, I could always get a weave or a relaxer down the line. Even though I quit my job to start my own consulting business, I knew that if it didn’t work out, I could always polish up my resume and go find another job. When I thought about it that way, really I had nothing to lose.

And right now I’m in the midst of a dating experiment to aid in my quest for a boyfriend. I want a relationship, and this is a great way to force myself to actively pursue that goal. The beauty of it is that you can make up whatever kind of experiments you want to improve your life in whatever way you see fit.

Other areas where you could remix your life include:

  • Health
  • Career
  • Dating
  • Marriage
  • Family
  • Friendships
  • Community

What are some lifestyle experiments you can test out in your own life? Are there any goals you could make progress on if you simply put more effort into them? Do you need a lifestyle experiment?

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